Making friends as an adult.

Several months ago, I didnt have any friends. I had lost all my friends since becoming an old housewife & mom. I didnt have anything in common with the people I used to hang out with (and party with). I have never been a fan of the female sex, so most of my friends were guys anyway, and as a married woman, I just dont feel thats acceptable, so I shut everyone out. I was a loner, pretty much. Aside from my husband & kids, I didnt have anyone.

That being said, since I didnt have much experience with having friends as an adult, I thought I'd never find people I could be cool with. I felt...picky, so to speak. I felt like in order for me to tolerate someone long enough to be their friend, I would have to have SO many things in common with them, and I'd never find anyone like that. I just honestly had no idea what it was like to have friends anymore. It was weird. I was a grouchy ole hermit crab.

Now, I do have some fellow moms I do things with, have playdates with, go to dinner with. Most of the time, I think having given birth is the only thing we have in common, but thats okay. Being different is fine, contrary to what I once believed. There are so many things about who I am that no one would understand, no one but my best friend Sasha. She & I are SO alike its not even right, and we are truly a rare breed...lol. She is the only one I will ever be able to totally be myself around, and I know that, but I'm okay with it. I have my one best friend, who is there no matter what, who I can tell ANYTHING to, who understands me, and I have a group of ladies who are fun to be around, who I enjoy hanging out with, who's kids are friends with mine, and I like it that way. I dont have to agree with every choice they make, or everything they believe in, thats not what its about. Its about respecting each other, its about liking each other despite differences and flaws, its about learning to get to know people you wouldnt normally have been friends with otherwise.

This big world of having friends is alot different than I thought it would be, and I like it.