My mistakes vs. yours.

One thing I try very hard not to do is be too judgmental of other moms. I used to be what seemed to be very close-minded, but as Ive grown as a person & a mother, Ive opened my mind & understood more. (We ALL judge on some level, Im just saying Ive gotten way better) I have done things that I would NEVER do now, and it would be my first instinct to look down on someone who does those things now, but I have to remember...I was there. They are just at a different point in their life than me, and thats okay.

I like to read posts on CafeMom, but I swear its more annoying than anything. So many people are so quick to judge before they know anything about a person. I have REALLY grown in that department & I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. Even my own husband is the type to jump to conclusions & judge someone before knowing the background. Its so aggravating.

I would be willing to bet, every single one of us mothers do SOMETHING that another mother might look down on, or say its not the best thing to do, or that its not the safest or smartest. Every...single...one of us. If you dont agree, you are probably in denial. So what makes your mistakes better than someone elses? Take, for example, say there's a mom who doesn't vaccinate their kids AT ALL, and another mom thinks that its unsafe & endangering the life of the kid. But the second mom gives their kids every vaccine they possibly can get, and in turn, could develop a serious disorder or disease as a side effect. BOTH moms felt they were doing what was best for their kid, as we all do. Something negative could happen in either situation.

Or the mom who feeds their toddler junk food & candy ALL the time, but looks down on moms who smoke in the car when their baby is in there. Yep, they are both bad. Kids can be obese due to bad eating habits, develop diabetes, be at a greater risk for heart disease, the list could go on & on, and the smoking mom could be causing breathing problems, like asthma, because she is exposing her kid to the harmful cigarette smoke. Both moms could look down on each other for their choices, but neither one of them is perfect.

Why cant people see this? Why is it SO hard to understand that we are all different, and we all make different choices? Why cant people see that THEY arent doing everything perfect, either, but think they have the right to sit around & judge everyone else? Its always going to be a sad, close-minded world, and I just hope I can raise my kids to think about things before being an asshole.